What Would Life Look Like Without Discipline

"Because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in." Proverbs 3:12 (NIV)

The Importance of Discipline

Discipline helps children understand right from wrong, and learn the value of obedience and accountability. Without it, children may grow up confused, ungrounded, and unable to navigate life in a godly manner. Failing to discipline your children is not just neglect—it’s an act of disobedience to God's instruction.

If you want your children to grow into godly, responsible, and loving individuals, you must be willing to discipline them. But remember: discipline must be rooted in love, never anger or frustration.

What Breaks a Child’s Spirit?

Discipline should never break a child’s spirit. These harmful behaviors can do lasting damage:

• Refusing to listen to them

• Disciplining without explanation

• Ignoring their requests or opinions

• Making them feel helpless or hopeless

• Comparing them to others in a demeaning way

• Using fearful or threatening words

• Expressing anger in unhealthy ways

• Criticizing their best efforts

• Failing to give them good things to look forward to

These actions can send the message that they are not loved or worthy—and that is not the message God wants them to hear.

What Does Godly Discipline Look Like?

Discipline is part of parenting, but it doesn’t have to be harsh. When you done it with love and patience, it helps children grow, not just behave better. The goal is to guide them, not just correct them. See below for some gentle reminders to keep in mind:

• Check your motives – Are you guiding them, or simply venting your frustration?

• Explain the reason – Help them understand why you’re correcting them.

• Use a loving tone – Harsh words can wound; gentle correction can heal.

• Never discipline in anger – Wait until you are calm and clear-headed.

• Keep your promises – Build trust by being consistent.

• Be honest about your own struggles – Say things like: “I don’t enjoy disciplining you, but I want you to grow up well.”

• Avoid physical harm – Never slap, strike, or kick. Discipline should not be body-to-body.

Always reassure your child that you love them. Let them know you correct them because you love them.

Biblical Reminder

"Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them." Proverbs 13:24 (NIV)

God entrusts parents with the care of their children. One day, we will give account for how we raised them. Discipline them with love, patience, and the wisdom of God's Word.